Tormentas y crecer

Ha pasado algún tiempo desde que escribo aquí pero hoy sentí la necesidad de hacerlo después de ver la foto de una amiga que decía lo siguiente:

11150947_10206300224401998_8166220396123379147_nMe acordé de las muchas tormentas que han pasado por mi vida, unas que se sintieron como huracanes y otras que simplemente sirvieron para limpiar lo que necesitaba cambiar. Cada uno de esos periodos que vivimos en la oscuridad, en soledad, muchas veces sin dejar que nadie se acerque a ellos (y pueda vernos caer y ser vulnerables); cada una de esas tormentas fueron forjando mi fuerza, mi confianza, mi perseveranza y el deseo de “sobrevivir” y volver a construir la mujer que soy y sueño ser.

A veces miro en retrospectiva mi vida y ni siquiera se como llegué a estar y ser quien soy; sólo estoy segura de una cosa, quién quiera que sea que me cuida (Dios, el Universo, la vida, etc.), ha puesto en mi camino los mejores compañeros/as de ruta que alguien pudiera soñar o desear y se (y de eso estoy segura) que gracias a ellos me he podido levantar, soportar y encontrar el apoyo necesario para poder seguir avanzando, por eso, a cada uno que esté viviendo y pasando por algún tipo de tormenta, les digo que respiren fondo y confíen, que pase lo que pase y dure lo que dure, esa tormenta acabará por ser una bendición en su vida.

Love,

Pepa Gómez

p.s.: dedicado a tí amiga que siempre fuiste uno de los pilares en mi vida; por favor no te olvides que no estás sola y tienes al igual que yo, la suerte de tener a tu alrededor un Universo de amor infinito e incondicional que te ayudará a superar TODO. Te adoro ❤

Manorism Event, amazing street art exhibition

I was missing to come here and write but I was quite busy organized my things for my next steps (work, exercises, travels and love) but I’m glad to be here again so here I go… I want to share with you guys the “Manorism Event” (https://www.facebook.com/events/1546518908956545/), an amazing street art exhibition organized by Pablo Fiasco who describe this like this:

“Manorism is an exhibition of street art taking place in, on and around a large warehouse space in Manor House, North London. We will have artists from Canada, Mexico, Spain, the Democratic Republic of Congo, America and the UK who will create a series of pieces for the walls of the warehouse especially for this exhibition. The event will also include an exhibition of smaller works, film showings, live music, DJ’s and a bar. Some artists include are Kenor, Zosen Bandido, Vinnie Nylon, Pure Evil, Pablo Fiasco, Mary Yacoob, Lapiztola Stencil, Dotmasters, Mudwig, Paris, Kate Merry, Req, Disastronaut, Mary Yacoob, Cedoux Kadima, MNKY http://www.mnkyvision.co.uk/, Dan Johnson, FiST, and more”. One of the reason because I want to share this is because my handsome is one of the artist (MNKY)  😀 and in this moment is working painting “The Mandril”, one unique piece he created for the 25 year of the Rainforest Foundation UK. Here is the Piece he donated for the auction in that time: 6901860And here is how is already looking the new one: 2015-03-18 13.18.56The exhibition is open to the public over the Easter Bank Holiday weekend: 3rd to 5th April, 2015 and if you are in London or close to the city you MUST need to go (unfortunately I will be in Spain in that dates but you can enjoy for me too). Hope you enjoy street art how much like me 😉 See you guys and a great week for everyone! Pepa Gómez

Marzo y lo que se viene…

Estoy escribiendo y casi no veo nada; me olvidé mis gafas en casa y aunque me cueste un poco, no quiero dejar esto para mañana. Ya estamos en Marzo! el mes en donde empieza la primavera (al menos en el continente donde estoy) y donde todo se inunda de colores y nuevos aires; en mi caso es el mes de preparar mi próxima aventura que por primera vez abarcará varios países y un mes completito sólo para descansar y descubrir lo que la vida me quiera regalar.

Les cuento que con una de mis mejores amigas nos vamos de viaje! Yupiiiiiiii… Ya tenemos todos los pasajes en la mano; ella vendrá de Chile y yo de Portugal y nos encontraremos en España (Madrid) donde empezaremos nuestra aventura disfrutando de la Semana Santa española que vale la pena vivir sí o sí alguna vez en la vida. Después de eso, viajaremos a uno de mis destinos de sueños -Turquía- que es donde más tiempo estaremos (Estambul, Ankara, Capaddocia, Pamukkale) si es que no nos entusiasmamos con nada más y desde ahí, nos iremos a Grecia donde pretendemos estar en Atenas, Mykonos o Santorini (o ambas). Para cerrar el viaje nada mejor que ir a regalonear a mi novio (a Inglaterra – Brighton y Londres-) que cumple 40 años y regalonearme a mí que cumplo 11 años viviendo en este viejo continente.

Así que como pueden ver, este mes es para planificar, soñar, idear y volar con todo lo que se me viene que espero sea brutal!

Que tengan un buen fin de semana! Y nunca se olviden de soñar!

Pepa Gómez

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12 Side Effects of living in Chile

I’m a proud Chilean; I love my country and my people with all the good and bad, it is like a marriage but better, because I really, really know will be for all my life. One of the things I like more is listen how people see us especially after visit or live in Chile.
I read this at Matador Network and I can not be more agree (like always) with every single point in this list so here it is, I hope you can enjoy just like I did (the green comments are mine) 😉

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1. You learn what a real sandwich looks like (I miss this soooooo much! if is have not a good avocado is not a sandwich for us)

Gone are the days of two slices of bread, a few sad pieces of turkey, some lettuce and tomato. Chileans have a whole different idea of what constitutes a sandwich. Imagine a fresh, toasted hamburger bun heaping with hefty slabs of lomo (pork tenderloin), covered in melted cheese, doused in mashed avocado, piled on with mayonnaise, and then wipe the drool from your chin.

2. You start watching puppet shows to become a more informed citizen (after 11 years still remember the musics and lyrics)

31 Minutos is a widely popular Chilean satirical news show which features puppets performing comically crass political commentary, impersonations of public figures, and enough double entendre to keep the parents entertained while kids remain obliviously engaged.

3. You start referring to everything as an animal (you need to learn “chilean” for understand us).

Chileans love slang, especially animal-related slang. When you’re “pasandolo chancho,” it doesn’t mean you’re passing a pig, it mean’s you’re having a great time. When you’re “echando la yegua,” it doesn’t mean your horse laid down, it means you’re ready to relax after a tiring activity (like eating a lot). Popcorn is called cabritas (little goats) or palomitas (little doves); a sapo (frog) is a tattletale; avaca (cow) is an idiot. After a while in Chile, you’ll find your daily language sounding more and more like a rendition of “Old Macdonald Had a Farm.”

4. You find a second home in Jumbo (is nothing like the Jumbo we have in Portugal, is the best supermarket in the city)

With its abundant, gleaming white aisles filled to the brim with a huge variety of everything you could ever imagine, from electronic goods, to home goods, to food, cosmetics and even clothing, you will inevitably draw comparisons between Jumbo and Target (if you’re from a country that’s blessed with Target). You will find yourself wandering around the aisles whenever you miss home (or more likely curled up on a sofa in the home furnishings section, cradling a jar of Nutella). If you can’t find a Jumbo, find solace in a Lider, which is actually owned by Walmart.

5. You discover that there is never a bad time to eat a Super 8 (or Negrita or TuYo, etc.)

Super 8 is an amazingly popular candy bar that Chileans eat all the livelong day. It’s a light, chocolatey wafer concoction that doesn’t make you feel terrible about yourself even though it’s candy. You can find Super 8 pretty much everywhere you look. Vendors even walk through traffic on the highways to sell them!

6. You feel oddly connected to Germany (maybe for that I like them so much).

Due to a large wave of German immigrants that arrived to Chile during the latter half of the 19th century, traces of German culture have seeped their way into Chilean identity. The prevalence of sausages and sandwiches in Chilean cuisine, beer brewing techniques, names of streets, and even architecture in certain southern parts of Chile are all indicative of a history of German colonialism. In fact, a chain of Chilean diners is called La Fuente Alemana, the German Soda Fountain.

7. You eat, drink, and breathe corn (my favourite dish…. Pastel de Choclo!)

Chileans have mastered many diverse ways of preparing choclo (Chilean for corn): Pastel de choclo, a savory corn pie with meat and veggies cooked into a corn bread; Humitas, corn mashed with onion and hot chili, wrapped in corn husks and baked or boiled; Mote con huesillo, a sweet peach refreshment containing softened corn kernels (a variation contains husked wheat instead of corn); maíz frito aka fried corn kernels, a salty picoteo (snack, usually eaten while imbibing), they even put corn on pizza!

8. The street becomes your food court (and is not important how creepy looks because sometimes are the best!)

Sopaipillas, sandwiches, fruit juices, Super Ochos, maní confitado, completos, empanadas — if it exists in Chile, you can buy it on the street. You’ll be enchanted by the plentiful options and giddily hop from stand to stand, making a normal stroll down the Alameda a one-stop, one-of-a-kind gastronomic experience.

9. You drop “po” left and right (one of the best ways to reconized a Chilean).

Few things are more Chilean than the abundant — at times even excessive — use of “po,” an abbreviation of “pues” which means “well,” but is used primarily as a meaningless filler. Dropping your first “po” after you move to Chile is something of a rite of passage. You’ll never expect it but once it happens, you’re officially culturally Chilean. Before you drop your first “po” you might say your first “cachai?” This should warn you that “po” is near.

10. You start sprinkling merken on everything ( 🙂 )

Like avocados, merkén (smoked chili pepper) is an ingredient that Chileans love to incorporate whenever possible. It won’t be long after you move to Chile that you find yourself sprinkling merkén on cheese, eggs, and definitely on pebre(Chile’s even more delicious variation of salsa).

11. You start teasing your friends to their faces and complimenting them behind their backs (or the opposite, can be good or very bad sometimes)

Chileans are a humorous bunch, and they get a kick out of teasing their loved ones. There’s a running joke amongst young Chileans that men speak disparagingly to one another’s faces and praise each other behind their backs, and that the opposite is true for women. Whatever the case, as a gringo you will be an easy target for some teasing and rather than get defensive, it’s best to join in!

12. You make friends for life, and become a better friend yourself (and for me this is the most important point in all this list because is one of the things I miss most living away).

Chileans are thoroughly caring, generous people. They’ll offer you a shoulder to cry on, a ride home, to accompany you to the doctor’s office, even the last empanada. You’ll be hard-pressed to find better people in the world, and being surrounded by your kind Chilean friends all the time will make you a better person.

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18 Life’s Rules

I know our society is sick; with all my sadness I can see how the envy, the madness, the selfishness, the anger and more are taking the best of people, and made them lost values, priorities and behave like idiots most of the times.

When we lost the capability of be happy for other’s happiness? for look someone and be glad because that person is being a better person and is resolving their problems? why we expect someone be in the shit and be ok with that and sometimes until happy?

We are sick but I believe in the good heart of people and essence of everyone; I believe in Karma and in all we did or wish to others in some point will return of us so PLEASE people, try to be the best version of yourself and be proud of the women or men we are, because living like a “good person” don’t make us bad.

This are the 18 life’s rules of Dalai Lama teach us for be the best version of us and don’t forget this: respect, love, kindness, empathy, comprension, gentleness, the values, honorability need to be a “trend” because with need all this and more for healing this World.

Rule 1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

Rule 2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson

Rule 3. Follow the three Rs: 1. Respect for self 2. Respect for others 3. Responsibility for all your actions.

Rule 4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

Rule 5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

Rule 6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

Rule 7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

Rule 8. Spend some time alone every day.

Rule 9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.

Rule 10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

Rule 11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.

Rule 12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.

Rule 13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.

Rule 14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.

Rule 15. Be gentle with the earth.

Rule 16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.

Rule 17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

Rule 18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

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Have a wonderful day!

Pepa Gómez

10 Signs You’ve Found “The One”

“The One”; this can be such a daunting term… I read today about this and can not be more agree.

This is from MindBodyGreen, I hope you can see inside of your relationship and check how is going on because like the said “WE JUST DESERVE THE GREATNESS IN OUR LIFES” 😉

Being with the right person can not only determine authentic, unconditional happiness, but your health as well. Being in a toxic relationship may keep you from true happiness, stop you from experiencing unconditional love, and can hold you back from living the life you’re meant to be living.

I’ve found my soul mate, best friend, and the most perfect person on earth for me.

We’re incredibly lucky. I hope each and every one don’t accept anything but greatness.

Here are 10 (out of so many) simple things to look out for in a relationship:

1. Your partner is your best friend. You’re 110% yourself, you feel free, and enjoy the little things in life together.

2. Your partner is the one you want next to you in your deepest, darkest moments.

3. You’re capable of being away from each other, but neither of you like it one bit.

4. Your partner is your #1 choice for the person you want with you when you splurge on your favorite treat, watch an embarrassing television show, or forget your manners at the dinner table because you’re too exhausted that day.

5. The two of you compromise with each other. You don’t always get your way.

6. You care about his or her needs more than your own.

7. You both know that throughout life you might change and grow, but you’ll always change and grow together. Life is about enjoying the stages with each other.

8. When something happens—terrible, exciting or completely insignificant—he or she is always the first person you want to tell.

9. He or she balances you out, and you do the same. Where one is weaker, the other is stronger.

10. You know that no matter what, he or she will always stand by you and be on your side.

Bonus: You both take a moment, every day, to think about just how lucky you are to have found your most perfect person on this earth ❤

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Pepa Gómez

10 Tips To Make Your Long Distance Relationship (LDR) Works

The first time I feel I was really in love was in February, 2003 and was not easy because was my first LDR. So far, I had 3 LDR in my life and I can said (with knowledge) you need to really commitment for make this works.

In the first case and now I experienced what I will post here and that make all the difference for create the love and relationship you dream.

I hope this help to all who have their loves far away and want with all their hearts their relationship work!

Enjoy!

Pepa Gómez

(post from MindBodyGreen)

“What military families have always had to deal with — the impending doom of long-distance relationships — has now become very common. Especially with the increasing popularity of online dating, men and women alike are meeting partners in unexpected places; social media allows us to reconnect with friends and acquaintances from our past in surprising ways. In short, technology has made the world a much smaller place.

With that said, here are 10 tips I’ve learned while on my own long-distance journey. Obviously, there are far more than 10 things to do to cultivate a healthier relationship. But like me, you’ll figure them out on your own journey. So start with these to build a solid foundation …

1. Communicate — clearly and consistently.

I wish I could list this tip 10 times over! For any relationship, romantic or otherwise, communication is vital. In long-distance relationships, where the comfort of physical touch is not available, it’s especially important to prioritize transparent and authentic communication. Get to know one another’s needs and desires, so that resentments and frustrations don’t build over time. Find out what modes of communication work best for you. And use them frequently!

2. Remember that social media is a no-no.

This may sound ironic, especially after I’m telling you to prioritize regular communication. But social media is not an especially mindful or intentional place to have intimate, honest conversations. Even if you met your partner on a social media platform, make a conscious effort not to use it as a tool for sharing and catching up with one another. Communication with your partner should be relatively private and direct.

3. Make plans for the immediate future.

Don’t make your partner guess if and when you will be together again. As soon as you are both able to commit to a time-frame and location, make a plan. Also make sure you are both willing to take turns doing the traveling. Having some kind of consistency and predictability in how you spend time together will help build trust. Plus, it will make the feeling of longing on a day-to-day basis feel much more manageable.

4. Make plans for the distant future, too.

Show your intentions for the relationship by agreeing to plans further down the road. If it’s winter, make some vacation plans for spring or summer. If it’s early on in your relationship, don’t put pressure on this tip. But you can have casual conversations about things you might like to do in the future, and make concrete plans later.

5. Use texting appropriately!

Texting was designed as a means of communicating short, simple messages, not as a means for long and involved conversations. In fact, trying to express complex thoughts over text message can often lead to things being lost in translation, and potentially even unnecessary conflict. So use text messages to communicate quick thoughts like, “I’m thinking of you!” or “I’ll give you a call after work!” Avoid drunk texting for obvious reasons. “Sexting” is a different topic altogether, as it works for some and less so for others. This is one area where you’ll figure out what works for your relationship!

6. Email each other longer trains of thought.

If a topic deserves more thoughtful consideration, email is the way to go. Email about trip ideas, planning visits, or other more involved trains of thought. That said, don’t try and communicate “relationship issues” over email. Save that for the phone, or better yet, in person. In other words, if it’s too long for a text, and not so serious as to warrant an immediate phone conversation, try email.

7. Keep things special with snail mail.

Everyone likes to receive mail that isn’t a bill or an advertisement. Getting a letter or postcard also shows you took the time and made a little more of an effort. Send a cute card, love note or small gift to surprise your partner!

8. Talk daily. Yes, daily!

Long or short telephone conversations will keep you present with your partner. You’ll feel more connected and will also look forward to this part of your day or night. Even schedule “phone dates.” While I prefer not to Skype or use FaceTime, they may work better for you than the phone, so experiment.

9. Develop rituals.

Having things the two of you share when you’re apart will make you feel closer. My partner and I will go out and look at the moon “together” often when we talk. You can make a routine of a “Good Morning” or “Good Night” text. Be creative and see what works for you.

10. Honor your partner’s independence.

Taking the time to recognize your partner’s independence from you and your relationship can sometimes feel painful, especially in the context of a long-distance relationship. But like you, your partner has an entire world that they experience everyday. They have a career, home, friends and family. Honor their independence, and they will honor yours. Not only will you avoid codependency, you will feel more confident and empowered in your own daily life.

All relationships require nurturing. So don’t expect a long-distance one to be any different.”

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