Grandes cambios!/Big changes!

Bueno amigos,

Después de mucho tiempo lejos de aquí les quiero contar en que estoy: pasaron 11 años y muchas cosas vividas en Portugal para por fin tomar la decisión de irme de este bello país que hace y hará siempre parte de mi corazón. Tengo un sentimiento agridulce conmigo porque dejo todo lo que por mucho tiempo busqué, la tan anhelada ESTABILIDAD; tengo un departamento bello frente al mar, un trabajo muy estable (sobretodo en estos días de inseguridad en Europa) que me permite vivir bien, viajar y hacer mucho de lo que quiero; tengo amigos y muy buenos, pero a pesar de todo eso no me siento FELIZ. La última vez que me sentí plenamente feliz fue en Abril cuando estuve viajando con una de mis mejores amigas, sólo con mi maleta pero con el corazón inundado de dicha que de recordarla me trae nuevamente una sonrisa.

Soy un bicho raro, lo sé; algunos me dicen que soy una mujer “especial” (espero que sea en el buen sentido), cosa que tengo claro porque en este caso, lo lógico y “normal” sería quedarme quieta en estas aguas calmas y alegrarme de TENER lo que tengo pero no, me falta más… me falta volver a sentir mi corazón vibrar, me falta volver a sentir que crezco y aprendo, me faltan nuevos colores, luces, vida, me falta eso, SENTIRME VIVA!.

En estos momentos “sobrevivo” y no es lo que sueño para mi vida; prefiero morir cuando sea, sin nada material, pero con el corazón agotado de tanta VIDA que le di la oportunidad de vivir.

Estaré loca?! probablemente! pero como le dije a mi jefe, “confío en Dios que me ha cuidado siempre y ha puesto a las mejores personas en mi vida para acompañar mi camino; espero que corra todo bien y si no, que sea lo que tenga que ser, pero que ojalá que lo que tenga que ser, sea bueno” 🙂

Me voy a final de Agosto de Lisboa, vendo y cierro todo; me muevo hacia nuevos rumbos y luego a regalonear en el Hemisferio Sur con mi gente, en mi patria. Hace 11 años que no he estado sin trabajo, por eso lo que viene después es una incógnita, pero el sólo hecho de tomar esta decisión me dio nueva vida, nuevos sueños, abrió mil y una idea, así que como digo, ESTO SÓLO PUEDE SER UNA BUENA SEÑAL 😉

Les dejo un link para poder ayudarse a los que nos movemos internamente en Europa, con pasos simples que hay que hacer; en este caso es el ejemplo de los españoles que se van a Inglaterra así que a tomar nota gente que nos puede servir!

http://laaventuradeoxford.com/oxford/antes-de-nada/

Gracias a todos y como siempre digo… ALWAYS AND NOT MATTER WHAT, FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS!

Love,

Pepa Gómez

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50 Timeless Pieces of Advice About Love And Relationships

I found yesterday this article and I can not be more agree with almost ALL they wrote here. Is a post from “The daily hiit” http://www.dailyhiit.com/, one of the blog I follow and a very good space for health and wellness in general.

I chat about this article with my boyfriend (I love to change opinions with him about everything!) and I’m happy to see we agree and share the same vision about where we are and where we want to go.

I hope you found this inspirational and help you to remember how you want to live your love relationship 😉

  • Don’t stay with someone who antagonizes or belittles you.
  • If you feel lonely in your relationship, you’re better off being alone.
  • Know when to walk away.
  • You can gauge a person’s love for you by how they treat you when they are upset with you.
  • Love is a verb. Not a noun.
  • When a lightbulb burns out, you replace the lightbulb. You don’t buy a new house.
  • Don’t stay with someone who has no regard for your feelings or wants just because you’ve been together a long time.
  • Just because you love each other, doesn’t mean you’re good together long term.
  • No relationship is perfect and conflict is inevitable. What matters is that you have the desire to resolve the issues.
  • Fight the problem. Not the Person. Keep this in mind so you can solve the problem instead of being mad at the other person.
  • Don’t look for a girl you want to treat as a princess (or a guy as a prince), look for one you want to treat as a partner.
  • Don’t disparage your significant other behind their back.
  • Confidence isn’t “I know s/he likes me,” it is “I will be okay whether s/he likes me or not.”
  • You can be compatible with a number of people. There is no ‘perfect’ match, you have to work at love.
  • You are NOT required to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.
  • Marry the person who gives you the same feeling you get when you see food coming in a restaurant.
  • The grass isn’t greener on the other side, it is greener where you water it.
  • Stop trying to find the right person, and start trying to BE the right person.
  • The person who cares the least in a relationship has most of the control.
  • Don’t fall in love with your waitress, hooker or therapist.
  • It’s better to be happy than it is to be right.
  • Always be the first to genuinely apologize after a fight.
  • You can’t expect someone to love you if you can’t love yourself.
  • Just because you like the friend-version of someone doesn’t mean you will like the relationship-version.
  • Before you move in together, road trip together.
  • Don’t be afraid to open up and be vulnerable. Vulnerability can bring you closer together and strengthen you both.
  • When you and your partner fight, it is you and them VS the problem. Not you VS them.
  • Just because doesn’t love you the way you’d like them to, doesn’t mean they aren’t loving you with all they have.
  • Don’t fall in love with someone’s potential.
  • It takes two happy individuals to make a happy relationship.
  • If the world didn’t give second chances, we’d all be single.
  • Everyone searches for the perfect person without trying to be the most perfect versions of themselves possible.
  • If to love the memories more than the present, it is time to move on.
  • Just because someone may be right for you, it doesn’t mean you are right for them.
  • If it’s broken, fix it. If you’ve lost count of how many times it’s broken, or the cost of repair far outweighs the initial outlay, throw it away and move on.
  • Out of all the things needed for a successful relationship, love barely makes the top 5. Honesty, loyalty, trust, and communication all have to be there.
  • Always hold hands when talking about the hard stuff. It helps to keep the negative emotions in check & shows you care.
  • Be the person you would want your future (or current) child to date.
  • Love is about appreciation, not possession.
  • Don’t go to bed angry. Everything will still be there and worse in the morning.
  • Always seduce your lover, even if you are in a committed relationship. Otherwise, another person will.
  • If someone threatens to leave you, help them pack.
  • Keep no secrets, tell no lies.
  • Sometimes you gotta wise up and let go. Yes, it hurts. But it’ll hurt more in the future.
  • Relationships aren’t hard (even if they are work). If it is hard, you are probably with the wrong person.
  • Love is not a feeling. Feelings fade, change, respond to situations and events. Love is a choice.
  • If it feels wrong at the beginning, it probably won’t get better.
  • If you’re keeping score you’ve already lost.
  • Love is an action, not a feeling. It’s learned and developed skill, not an experience. Not that the romantic feeling doesn’t exist or isn’t a wonderful part of the relationship, but it doesn’t make it last.
  • The best sign of a healthy relationship is no sign of it on Facebook.

Love,

Pepa Gómez

La pena…

Eso es lo que estoy sintiendo, mucha pena…

Estuve un mes fuera de casa, y mañana me toca regresar. Es la primera vez que siento que no necesito volver, que estoy bien así, sólo con una maleta absorbiendo todo lo que la vida me quiera regalar. 

El primer y mayor regalo en este mes fue compartir durante 25 días con una de mis mejores amigas, mi parter, mi compañera de viajes que considero como una hermana; esta amiga que te llena de luz y alegría y que hace que todo lo difícil parezca nada. Así es mi amiga, un huracán de fuego, belleza, inteligencia y fuerza que es uno de mis modelos a seguir; una bocanada de aire fresco y simplicidad que desarma mi estructura y me ayuda a gozar como a mi me gusta, como a mi me acomoda y como se siente bien.  Una de mis penas es que se me fue, volvió a mi querido Chile y me dejó un hoyito en el corazón… Como te extraño amiga!

El segundo regalo fue poder compartir y conocer mas a mi bello; el hombre que me roba el corazón día a día y que cada me sorprende con su dulzura, cariño, entrega, comprensión, amor, sabiduria, simpleza, etc., etc., etc…. Han sido días que no quiero que acaben, días que quiero que perduren por lo que ni sé como retomar mi vida, mi cotidiano.

Cómo avanzar? Qué decisiones tomar? Por dónde comenzar? Mi cabeza esta llena de preguntas, ideas, imágenes; mi corazón está convertido en un pozo de mil sentimientos y yo solo quiero tener el poder de hac parar el tiempo y quedarme donde estoy, en paz y simplemente poder descansar mi alma y llenarme del amor que me he llenado en este mes.

Tengo mucha pena, tanta que hasta me duele pero intentaré agarrarme de las sonrisas recibidas, del amor, de lo simples, de la miradas y todo lo que le dió paz a mi espíritu y lo hizo sentirse libre y feliz.

Love,

Pepa Gómez 

Saudades… 😞  

A couples of things…

I have a couple of things to say so the best way for me is make a list, so here I go:

– After almost 3 most of started my blog (36 post later) I can just be mesmerized because this week the estadistic said my blog was looking 1015!… how I can not be more them grateful?! I was not having any idea people would be interesting in what I write because I did initially this just for me, like a way for exprese all my thought I always have with me, so to all are expending time dedicated their attention to this a huge TRANK YOU! (gracias, obrigado, merci, tak, etc.) .

– From today I just have one week until my next travel adventure with one of my best chilean friend for one month! I’m beyond excited and ready for this week prepare my last things (part of that online with my friend who is in Chile).

– Yesterday I did a major step at work for what I want for my future so I will pray for that and for the new steps are coming (I hope soon).

– And I need to comment what happened with the Germanwings airline, the co-pilot and what he did. I can not imagine how bad you need to be for forget all your principles and kill in such a terrible way so many innocents; I’m kind of obssesive with this news because I will travel soon many times in on month and more because I know how is live with depression and not take care of that. Are so many things in my mind about all this, about the victims, the families, the air family; about how bad you can be if you not treat yourself for a mental/soul problem and how “normal” can be to the point anyone see how bad you are until happens the worst…

So this post is essencially for say thank you, for be grateful for all is happening in my life, for be excited, for tell you to follow your heart, your dreams and what do you want and for more then everything for tell you PLEASE TAKE CARE YOUR SOUL, YOUR MIND AND YOUR HEART FOR ALL THE SICKNESS, BADNESS AND PAIN IS AROUND US.

Take your life in your hand and fight for her with all you have!

Love,

Pepa

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Marzo y lo que se viene…

Estoy escribiendo y casi no veo nada; me olvidé mis gafas en casa y aunque me cueste un poco, no quiero dejar esto para mañana. Ya estamos en Marzo! el mes en donde empieza la primavera (al menos en el continente donde estoy) y donde todo se inunda de colores y nuevos aires; en mi caso es el mes de preparar mi próxima aventura que por primera vez abarcará varios países y un mes completito sólo para descansar y descubrir lo que la vida me quiera regalar.

Les cuento que con una de mis mejores amigas nos vamos de viaje! Yupiiiiiiii… Ya tenemos todos los pasajes en la mano; ella vendrá de Chile y yo de Portugal y nos encontraremos en España (Madrid) donde empezaremos nuestra aventura disfrutando de la Semana Santa española que vale la pena vivir sí o sí alguna vez en la vida. Después de eso, viajaremos a uno de mis destinos de sueños -Turquía- que es donde más tiempo estaremos (Estambul, Ankara, Capaddocia, Pamukkale) si es que no nos entusiasmamos con nada más y desde ahí, nos iremos a Grecia donde pretendemos estar en Atenas, Mykonos o Santorini (o ambas). Para cerrar el viaje nada mejor que ir a regalonear a mi novio (a Inglaterra – Brighton y Londres-) que cumple 40 años y regalonearme a mí que cumplo 11 años viviendo en este viejo continente.

Así que como pueden ver, este mes es para planificar, soñar, idear y volar con todo lo que se me viene que espero sea brutal!

Que tengan un buen fin de semana! Y nunca se olviden de soñar!

Pepa Gómez

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18 Life’s Rules

I know our society is sick; with all my sadness I can see how the envy, the madness, the selfishness, the anger and more are taking the best of people, and made them lost values, priorities and behave like idiots most of the times.

When we lost the capability of be happy for other’s happiness? for look someone and be glad because that person is being a better person and is resolving their problems? why we expect someone be in the shit and be ok with that and sometimes until happy?

We are sick but I believe in the good heart of people and essence of everyone; I believe in Karma and in all we did or wish to others in some point will return of us so PLEASE people, try to be the best version of yourself and be proud of the women or men we are, because living like a “good person” don’t make us bad.

This are the 18 life’s rules of Dalai Lama teach us for be the best version of us and don’t forget this: respect, love, kindness, empathy, comprension, gentleness, the values, honorability need to be a “trend” because with need all this and more for healing this World.

Rule 1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

Rule 2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson

Rule 3. Follow the three Rs: 1. Respect for self 2. Respect for others 3. Responsibility for all your actions.

Rule 4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

Rule 5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

Rule 6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

Rule 7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

Rule 8. Spend some time alone every day.

Rule 9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.

Rule 10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

Rule 11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.

Rule 12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.

Rule 13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.

Rule 14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.

Rule 15. Be gentle with the earth.

Rule 16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.

Rule 17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

Rule 18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

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Have a wonderful day!

Pepa Gómez

10 Signs You’ve Found “The One”

“The One”; this can be such a daunting term… I read today about this and can not be more agree.

This is from MindBodyGreen, I hope you can see inside of your relationship and check how is going on because like the said “WE JUST DESERVE THE GREATNESS IN OUR LIFES” 😉

Being with the right person can not only determine authentic, unconditional happiness, but your health as well. Being in a toxic relationship may keep you from true happiness, stop you from experiencing unconditional love, and can hold you back from living the life you’re meant to be living.

I’ve found my soul mate, best friend, and the most perfect person on earth for me.

We’re incredibly lucky. I hope each and every one don’t accept anything but greatness.

Here are 10 (out of so many) simple things to look out for in a relationship:

1. Your partner is your best friend. You’re 110% yourself, you feel free, and enjoy the little things in life together.

2. Your partner is the one you want next to you in your deepest, darkest moments.

3. You’re capable of being away from each other, but neither of you like it one bit.

4. Your partner is your #1 choice for the person you want with you when you splurge on your favorite treat, watch an embarrassing television show, or forget your manners at the dinner table because you’re too exhausted that day.

5. The two of you compromise with each other. You don’t always get your way.

6. You care about his or her needs more than your own.

7. You both know that throughout life you might change and grow, but you’ll always change and grow together. Life is about enjoying the stages with each other.

8. When something happens—terrible, exciting or completely insignificant—he or she is always the first person you want to tell.

9. He or she balances you out, and you do the same. Where one is weaker, the other is stronger.

10. You know that no matter what, he or she will always stand by you and be on your side.

Bonus: You both take a moment, every day, to think about just how lucky you are to have found your most perfect person on this earth ❤

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Pepa Gómez