50 Timeless Pieces of Advice About Love And Relationships

I found yesterday this article and I can not be more agree with almost ALL they wrote here. Is a post from “The daily hiit” http://www.dailyhiit.com/, one of the blog I follow and a very good space for health and wellness in general.

I chat about this article with my boyfriend (I love to change opinions with him about everything!) and I’m happy to see we agree and share the same vision about where we are and where we want to go.

I hope you found this inspirational and help you to remember how you want to live your love relationship 😉

  • Don’t stay with someone who antagonizes or belittles you.
  • If you feel lonely in your relationship, you’re better off being alone.
  • Know when to walk away.
  • You can gauge a person’s love for you by how they treat you when they are upset with you.
  • Love is a verb. Not a noun.
  • When a lightbulb burns out, you replace the lightbulb. You don’t buy a new house.
  • Don’t stay with someone who has no regard for your feelings or wants just because you’ve been together a long time.
  • Just because you love each other, doesn’t mean you’re good together long term.
  • No relationship is perfect and conflict is inevitable. What matters is that you have the desire to resolve the issues.
  • Fight the problem. Not the Person. Keep this in mind so you can solve the problem instead of being mad at the other person.
  • Don’t look for a girl you want to treat as a princess (or a guy as a prince), look for one you want to treat as a partner.
  • Don’t disparage your significant other behind their back.
  • Confidence isn’t “I know s/he likes me,” it is “I will be okay whether s/he likes me or not.”
  • You can be compatible with a number of people. There is no ‘perfect’ match, you have to work at love.
  • You are NOT required to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.
  • Marry the person who gives you the same feeling you get when you see food coming in a restaurant.
  • The grass isn’t greener on the other side, it is greener where you water it.
  • Stop trying to find the right person, and start trying to BE the right person.
  • The person who cares the least in a relationship has most of the control.
  • Don’t fall in love with your waitress, hooker or therapist.
  • It’s better to be happy than it is to be right.
  • Always be the first to genuinely apologize after a fight.
  • You can’t expect someone to love you if you can’t love yourself.
  • Just because you like the friend-version of someone doesn’t mean you will like the relationship-version.
  • Before you move in together, road trip together.
  • Don’t be afraid to open up and be vulnerable. Vulnerability can bring you closer together and strengthen you both.
  • When you and your partner fight, it is you and them VS the problem. Not you VS them.
  • Just because doesn’t love you the way you’d like them to, doesn’t mean they aren’t loving you with all they have.
  • Don’t fall in love with someone’s potential.
  • It takes two happy individuals to make a happy relationship.
  • If the world didn’t give second chances, we’d all be single.
  • Everyone searches for the perfect person without trying to be the most perfect versions of themselves possible.
  • If to love the memories more than the present, it is time to move on.
  • Just because someone may be right for you, it doesn’t mean you are right for them.
  • If it’s broken, fix it. If you’ve lost count of how many times it’s broken, or the cost of repair far outweighs the initial outlay, throw it away and move on.
  • Out of all the things needed for a successful relationship, love barely makes the top 5. Honesty, loyalty, trust, and communication all have to be there.
  • Always hold hands when talking about the hard stuff. It helps to keep the negative emotions in check & shows you care.
  • Be the person you would want your future (or current) child to date.
  • Love is about appreciation, not possession.
  • Don’t go to bed angry. Everything will still be there and worse in the morning.
  • Always seduce your lover, even if you are in a committed relationship. Otherwise, another person will.
  • If someone threatens to leave you, help them pack.
  • Keep no secrets, tell no lies.
  • Sometimes you gotta wise up and let go. Yes, it hurts. But it’ll hurt more in the future.
  • Relationships aren’t hard (even if they are work). If it is hard, you are probably with the wrong person.
  • Love is not a feeling. Feelings fade, change, respond to situations and events. Love is a choice.
  • If it feels wrong at the beginning, it probably won’t get better.
  • If you’re keeping score you’ve already lost.
  • Love is an action, not a feeling. It’s learned and developed skill, not an experience. Not that the romantic feeling doesn’t exist or isn’t a wonderful part of the relationship, but it doesn’t make it last.
  • The best sign of a healthy relationship is no sign of it on Facebook.

Love,

Pepa Gómez

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10 Signs You’ve Found “The One”

“The One”; this can be such a daunting term… I read today about this and can not be more agree.

This is from MindBodyGreen, I hope you can see inside of your relationship and check how is going on because like the said “WE JUST DESERVE THE GREATNESS IN OUR LIFES” 😉

Being with the right person can not only determine authentic, unconditional happiness, but your health as well. Being in a toxic relationship may keep you from true happiness, stop you from experiencing unconditional love, and can hold you back from living the life you’re meant to be living.

I’ve found my soul mate, best friend, and the most perfect person on earth for me.

We’re incredibly lucky. I hope each and every one don’t accept anything but greatness.

Here are 10 (out of so many) simple things to look out for in a relationship:

1. Your partner is your best friend. You’re 110% yourself, you feel free, and enjoy the little things in life together.

2. Your partner is the one you want next to you in your deepest, darkest moments.

3. You’re capable of being away from each other, but neither of you like it one bit.

4. Your partner is your #1 choice for the person you want with you when you splurge on your favorite treat, watch an embarrassing television show, or forget your manners at the dinner table because you’re too exhausted that day.

5. The two of you compromise with each other. You don’t always get your way.

6. You care about his or her needs more than your own.

7. You both know that throughout life you might change and grow, but you’ll always change and grow together. Life is about enjoying the stages with each other.

8. When something happens—terrible, exciting or completely insignificant—he or she is always the first person you want to tell.

9. He or she balances you out, and you do the same. Where one is weaker, the other is stronger.

10. You know that no matter what, he or she will always stand by you and be on your side.

Bonus: You both take a moment, every day, to think about just how lucky you are to have found your most perfect person on this earth ❤

soulmate

Pepa Gómez

Couple’s life: 7 Conversations To Have Before You Think to Get Married

I think this is very, very important and all the time I speak about the subjects you need to discuss if the relationship you have is “serious” and you are thinking to get married or build a life with someone.

I read this article in mindbodygreen.com and I want to share this with you:

Many couples live together long before their wedding day, meaning they’ve already figured out who’s going to wash dishes and clean the bathroom, and which mid-fight button-pushing can send a small disagreement into nuclear territory. There are, however, some conversations you should definitely have before marriage—even if you’ve already figured out the living together part. Read on to discover five talks to have with your partner before the big day.

1. Debt & finances

Long before your wedding, sit down with your partner and have a frank discussion about your financial situation. If either of you have debt—student loan or otherwise—be honest about it; hiding it will only hurt you down the road. Likewise, if you have bad credit because of a past mistake or financial tumble, tell your partner and discuss ways to improve your credit score together. This is also a good time to talk about how you’ll handle your finances going forward.

2. Kids & parenting

You need to discuss whether or not you want to have kids, but beyond that, what are your partner’s expectations around parenting? Does your sweetheart want you to stay at home with the kids? Do both of you want to continue working full-time? If so, will your kids go to daycare, or have a nanny? Can someone in your family take care of the kids? This is also a good time to discuss whether or not you want to raise your kids in a certain religion. (You’d be surprised how many young people aren’t religious but want to be imbue their kids with some kind of spirituality!)

3. Moving to a new city or state

Times are tough and many people find themselves forced to move to new cities or states for work or affordable housing. Talk to your sweety about his or her willingness to move someday—even if it just means moving to a new neighborhood. If your partner is adamant about remaining in place, try to uncover his or her tipping point. Perhaps your future husband is concerned that you won’t make enough money to support a move out of state, but if the job pays X amount, he’d be more willing. Or maybe your future wife wants to be close to her family when you have kids, but would be willing to try out a new city until then.

4. Life priorities

Getting married means making very long-term plans with another person, so it’s important to lay out your priorities early. Is a yearly weeklong vacation on your list of absolute musts? Or would you rather scrimp and save for the first few years of marriage to buy a home? Discuss it with your partner and find a middle ground with which you’re both comfortable. You should both be able to achieve your goals—indeed, a good marriage can be a launch pad for big ambitions—but each of you may have to shift your timeline to accommodate your partner’s hopes and dreams.

5. Aging parents

You might not have to think about your parents’ age-related needs for a decade or more, but talking to your partner about how they hope to care for their aging parents is a good way to get familiar with each other’s priorities. Does your future spouse want her parents to live in your home? Would he prefer to put them up in a care facility? Will you be responsible for those costs? Include siblings in these conversations, too.

6. Handling the tough stuff

Start with this question: What were some of the worst periods in your life and how did you get through them? This will help you understand how your partner copes with tragedy and what kind of support he or she requires in a difficult situation. Next, the tough part: talk about how you’ll handle major challenges, should they arise (think: emotional, physical, or financial infidelity; infertility or difficulty conceiving or life-altering health issues).

7. Improving your communication

If you’ve been together a couple of years, you’ve probably established some patterns of communication. But it’s important to talk about how you can improve the way you argue, negotiate, and compromise. Ask your partner: How do your parents communicate and what can we learn from them? There may be things you’d like to try that work for your parents, or patterns you know you never want to replicate. Talk about ways you’re communicating now that are working, and things you’d like to stop doing immediately.

Good luck to everyone!

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